Why do I hate people?

Jérôme Vaillancourt
3 min readNov 12, 2020

What people are ready to say to get people attention.

I could have written a more provocative title… including racism and stuff… but I don’t think we’re ready for that. But…

Some people needs to be listened. Some people are comfortable living the life they do.

But hey… words… words are everything.

They are tools for expressing something.

I feel like sometimes they just take too much place in the mind of people. In their lives… Like they are really important… like they mean everything.

But in reality. Many people say stupid thing like I did in this article:

  • To get attention.
  • Cause you feel like there is no other way to be listened too.
  • Cause you have a purpose that you believe is good.
  • Cause you have something to express that you would like people to understand.

Reactivty to words we use.

Personally, I am not really reactive to words. I rather am reactive to people emotions.

I am really sensitive, but when I see hates speech and terrible title like I just made in this post,

I don’t react. I just wait and see…

I just look at some guy eye and the feel I got when he’s talking to me.

Rather than the words he uses. What is he trying to express?

That said, I love people, I love actions that are good, that feels good and mostly, I promote sensitivity in human beings.

Cause that is I believe, the true nature of our intentions and thoughts.

And we can know that throughout…

Vulnerability.

What we want, is what we are and feel wellness… meaning, happiness. Sensitivity… care. Love and acceptance. (Well, that’s what I really want.)

And… some people will be understood not by listening to the words they use… but rather by looking them in the eyes and feeling them.

Tears.

Joy.

Pain.

Can be felt in watching through the eyes of someone.

That is I believe, true vulnerability. Indeed, for some people, but not for all… words are still important in the world we live in.

Improve ou connection.

Words.

Or/And

Emotions?

We learned to communicate with them but we can change and mix it up with a bit more of emotions… eye contact and touch. (Physical touch).

These are Ideas that comes with people that needs to share it. Because they feel that their identity need it to live healthily in this world. Typically me.

I am less of a language person but more of a kynestesic person emotional and physical communication. Non verbal one. More tribal… you know, like a monkey, an animal or whatever.

So yeah.

I believe that we should aim at reducing our reaction to the word we use. Make it less important but rather look inside the people intentions and deep feels.

Conclusion.

Thanks for listening. Do not hesitate to comment, I would love to be understood and explain what I wanted to say in this article and make it clear.

Peace to all, love you. And hey, don’t react to the words, but the look in my eyes and the smile on my face ☺.

Peace bro’s and sis’s.

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Jérôme Vaillancourt

A man that went throughout many violences, trapped by ideologies. A man who's now free of them enough to live. A man who never stops digging for his best self.